For all the reasons we’ve already discussed – how distasteful we may find it, how alienating it can feel, what we think it says about us, and how it may threaten our concept of ourselves – it can be challenging when our one-and-only has views that differ from ours on issues of personal import. In this, the fourth and final installment, I advocate prioritizing action over belief, then making agreements where necessary.
This week we’re continuing our exploration of what to do when you and your partner find yourselves on opposite sides of the types of issues that can be extremely divisive. We’re not talking about the “you didn’t take out the trash again” scenarios. Or the “can I just get settled before you talk my ear off?” situations.
In part one of this series, we established that even in harmonious relationships, you might find that you and your partner are on opposite sides of the types of issues that divide countries (apparently). You might have come together on passion over commonality. Or you may have evolved differently over time. However you got here, here you are. So how do you navigate the issues without letting them erode the bond between you? Part one covers the importance of disagreeing respectfully. Let’s continue with part two of our exploration.
What happens when the person with whom you intensely disagree sleeps in your bed every night? The passion can be intensified when it’s your partner who holds opposite views from your own. I’m talking about the types of issues that divide countries. How do you engage in discussion about those issues without letting it divide your household? Read on to discover five tips for what to do when it feels like you’re sleeping with the enemy.
The longer you’re together, the harder it can be to remember to pay attention, to show the interest, love and care you did when you were in the courting phase. So what do you do about that? How do you continue to show each other you care? Stay tuned, and I’ll share six completely free strategies to help you keep the magic alive in your relationship.
While it’s not reasonable to expect that you’ll maintain the same level of curiosity and excitement present at the start of a new relationship, you are also not doomed to the cliché lackluster sex life that is too frequently characteristic of the long-term committed experience.