Published every Monday, Live Wire is a look around the web at all things love, romance, sex and intimacy.
10 Complaints Sex Therapists Hear All The Time – Brittany Wong, Huffington Post – What do couples talk about when they sit down with sex therapists? We asked seven sex therapists and psychologists from around the country to share the problems people in relationships bring up most frequently in their offices. See what they had to say.
Surviving Cheating: How to Decide to Stay, Leave or Fix a Relationship After Infidelity – Amber Madison, Glamour – “I never thought I’d be the kind of person who stays with a cheater.” As a therapist who specializes in couples and relationship problems, I hear this all the time from clients who have been cheated on and then decide to stay in the relationship. It’s a telling statement because what exactly do we think this “kind of person” is? A doormat? Someone with zero self-esteem? I can tell you that the answer is often none of these things. I can also tell you that all sorts of people—straight women, straight men, gay men, and gay women—make this choice. And when they do, one of the hardest things isn’t just repairing their relationship with their partner but dealing with the shame they feel for staying.
9 Reasons Why It’s Actually Kind of Awesome to Be Single During the Holidays – Scott Power, Women’s Health – Look, we’ve all been in the situation where it feels like everyone else is coupled up, making out under a wool blanket, going on ice-skating dates, and picking out trees together.
Are We Designed to Be Sexual Omnivores? – Christopher Ryan, Ted Talk – An idea permeates our modern view of relationships: that men and women have always paired off in sexually exclusive relationships. But before the dawn of agriculture, humans may actually have been quite promiscuous. Author Christopher Ryan walks us through the controversial evidence that human beings are sexual omnivores by nature, in hopes that a more nuanced understanding may put an end to discrimination, shame and the kind of unrealistic expectations that kill relationships.